eroswounded: sexual solace, sexual help

“The sexual embrace can only be compared with music and with prayer.”

- Marcus Aurelius

wound

noun 

1. An injury, especially one in which the skin or another external surface is torn, pierced, cut, or otherwise broken.
2. An injury to the feelings.

“Where a man’s wound is, that is where his genius will be.  Where his wounds lie, there he finds his gift to the community.”

- Robert Bly

em·pa·thy

noun
1. Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives.

2. The attribution of one's own feelings to an object.

"I do not ask how the wounded person feels. I simply become that wounded person." -Winston Churchhill

ob·ses·sion

noun  

1. Compulsive preoccupation with a fixed idea or an unwanted feeling or emotion, often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety.
2. A compulsive, often unreasonable idea or emotion.

 "A man with an obsession is a man who has very little sales resistance.” - C. S. Lewis

be·tray·al

noun

1. to seduce and desert

2. to be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling

“Betrayal is the only truth that sticks.” -Arthur Miller

a·buse

noun  (ə-byōōs')

1. Improper use or handling; misuse: abuse of authority; drug abuse.
2. Physical maltreatment: spousal abuse.
3. Sexual abuse.
4. An unjust or wrongful practice: a government that commits abuses against its citizens.
5. Insulting or coarse language: verbal abuse.

"If a man's character is to be abused, say what you will, there's nobody like a relation to do the business." - William Makepeace Thackery

in·ti·ma·cy

noun

1. inmost; deep within

2. a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group

3. sexual intercourse

"All these words get so screwed up in our society. If intimacy means being open and honest and authentic, so I don't have veils, or I don't have to be defensive or in denial of who I am, that's wonderful. But in our culture, intimacy usually has sexual connotations, with some kind of completion. So I want intimacy because I want more out of life. Very seldom does it have the sense of sacrifice or giving or being vulnerable. Those are two different ways of being intimate. And in our American vocabulary intimacy usually has to do with getting something from the other. That just screws the whole thing up."

- Eugene Peterson

ad·dic·tion

noun

1. Habitual psychological and physiological dependence on a substance or practice beyond one's voluntary control.

"Addiction is an illness of escape." - Patrick Carnes

jeal·ous·y

noun 

1. mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.
2. vigilance in maintaining or guarding something

“Jealousy is the tie that binds, and binds, and binds.”

- Helen Rowland

rape

noun

1. the unlawful compelling of a woman through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse

2. any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person

“People out there must be told about the self-loathing that follows rape and how it's the greatest breakage in divine law to mutilate themselves, as I have done.”

- Tori Amos

a·dul·ter·y

noun
1. voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.